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PostSubject: CONFIDENCE TIPS   Sun Apr 27, 2008 10:55 am

20 quick and practical methods to increase your confidence:

1. Think about someone who is confident and act, talk and walk like him or her. Model their mannerisms and behavior. It works for them; it will work for you.

2. Smile a lot more. That doesnít mean putting a silly grin on your face! But smile when you meet people and when you walk down the street. This makes you more approachable and attractive to others.

3. Learn from the past; donít beat yourself up about it. Itís gone; itís never coming back. Instead learn from it for next time.

4. Buy yourself some new clothes, get your hair done, and treat yourself to something new. It will make you feel better and will give your ego a boost.

5. Are you prepared for situations? Are you prepared enough to meet any challenge that may come up? Are you prepared for that meeting, that presentation, that job interview, when you meet someone for the first time? If not, prepare now.

6. Play to your strengths. Know what you are good at and expose yourself to these opportunities at every opportunity  because youíre good at it, youíll enjoy it and have more confidence.

7. Improve your weaknesses. Know and appreciate what these are and put a plan in place to improve them over time.

8. Learn how to say no to people. Donít be afraid, youíve got nothing to be afraid of. Just watch the reaction on their face after youíve said it the first time and there will be no going back.

9. Be positive. Look on the ďcan doĒ side of things rather than the ďcanít doĒ. Youíve accomplished lots in your life and you will accomplish lots more in the future.

10. Be in charge of your thoughts at all times. What is a thought? Itís just a question that youíve asked yourself and the thought is your answer. If youíre thinking negative thoughts, youíre probably asking a negative question. Change the questions to be more positive.

11. Whenever you feel a negative thought coming: STOP, THINK and ASK ďIs this really important in the grand scheme of things?í A lot of the time it isnít. Many people in life major in minor things!

12. Do you let the words of others affect you? Do you mind what they think of you? Remember that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Itís not what they say to you thatís the problem itís what you say to yourself after they have stopped talking thatís the problem. Change the way you think.

13. List the words that you use on a consistent basis when you feel let down or annoyed. People use different words to mean the same thing and depending upon the intensity of the word  this will have an effect on your confidence. Instead of saying ďIím enraged about thisĒ say, ďIím a little annoyedĒ. Make a substitute list for the words that you use. Make sure they are lower in intensity and then use them. Youíll be surprised with the results.

14. At the end of each day list your achievements and successes throughout that day.

15. Be appreciative of what you have to be thankful for in your life right now. Who do you love? Who loves you? Who do you help out?

16. Every morning when youíre in the shower, play over in your head the events in the day as though they have already happened and they were a success. Visualize all of the meetings that you had, the people you talked to, the outcomes you had. Visualize success and confidence and it will be so.

17. Improve your body language. The way that you move your body has a massive impact on your confidence levels. Move your body assertively and walk with your head up, shoulders back and as though youíve got somewhere very important to go. Feeling low in confidence? Change you body language

18. Emotion is created by motion. As in 17, make sure you move around consistently. This creates energy and gets the blood pumping around you body  it makes you feel better and more confident.

19. Learn to brag about yourself. Yes, you heard me! Talk about your achievements and successes more than you currently are.

20. And finally - You only live once, so any time that you are down just ask yourself in 10 or 20 years time - will what I am worrying about really matter?
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